Honest to goodness, I did aim to return to this blog. A return under different, happier circumstances. But I wanted to be candid and personal with this blog, as blogs tend to be, especially since I don't really offer myself the opportunity elsewhere. I wanted this blog to be an outlet, and so outlet-ing, I am.
I am an optimist. I am often at odds with myself, as, at the same time, I can have very strong tendencies to self deprecate (as I noticed in a work meeting, flippantly describing my art to my supervisor as a comparison to "you can polish a turd, but it's still a turd"). I deprive myself of a lot and struggle with confidence in myself and my pursuits. I tend not to let it show, and perhaps overcompensate, because I am so hypervigilant to the mood of the room and the people. Nobody wants to be around a person who is constantly putting themselves down, even as a joke. I'm usually the obnoxious self-help coach who swoops in and overcorrects when a friend or colleague makes a self deprecating joke and I wag my finger and take the air out of the room in doing so.
In spite of my on and off confidence, my inherent default to self deprecate, the constant anxieties and intrusive thoughts buzzing in my head like an irritated beehive on the daily, I am an optimist, and it's something I cling to and take pride in. I'm lucky enough to have been complimented on my optimism and energy and positivity by many people for many years. I am always looking for a silver lining, even if it's a cartoonish stretch to do so. Part of it has been born out of coping. Part of it is out of self defense. Part of it is out of offense. Part of it is just pure, genuine love and happiness and a desire to inspire others.
I am a proud optimist.
With the recent events of the election, I have never felt more utterly and gutturally hopeless in my entire life.
I've abstained from getting too political online, and I feel I am now reaping the consequences. I've stood up for myself and my friends where necessary, and I have pushed back against hate and bigotry where I can. I didn't constantly try to muzzle myself or beliefs, but I certainly felt like I had to swallow the gag more than I probably really did.
I am an escapist. I instinctually repress "bad" emotions, I shut down "bad" thoughts, I avoid any conflict I possibly can. I've been aware of my complacency and privilege to do this for the past 13 months especially, but I keep hiding under the guise of "I'll deal with it later, it'll be fine, everything will work out, it has to." And I hate that it takes the election results to finally confront that complacency. That complacency is being confronted because it's the first time I feel like I am unable to deal with it later, it's not fine--will there be a later? How will everything work out?
Deep in my heart, I still feel these things are true. A lot of people are riled up. I'm inspired by the calls to action and pooling of resources, the calls for camaraderie and solidarity. It makes me hopeful that there are people who won't take this lying down. I do believe there are good people, and good people worth fighting for and worth fighting with.
Regardless, it's been hard. I cried myself to sleep at 4 in the morning yesterday, unable to sleep. I spent all day crying. I spent some more of today crying. And the whole time, I'm sickly aware of the comedic irony of me sitting over my drawing tablet, struggling to draw storyboards for one of the most popular children's shows, wearing my Tom and Jerry shirt, while I'm sobbing thinking about the rights of myself and my friends and colleagues.
And the thing is, I feel stupid for doing so. I have multiple targets on my back, but not nearly as many as some of my friends and colleagues. I haven't had the energy to check up on my friends. Friends who have more cause for concern are reaching out and consoling me. "I can't focus on drawing funny cartoons" feels like such a juvenile thing to whine about when children are being bombed overseas, when people are being bullied and intimidated at school or at work, when there are people having to make many more difficult decisions than I am making.
And I hate that this is what has to snap me out of my complacency. So many people have, and will, go through worse than I have and will. For generations. I feel like I have no right to be as scared and sad as I am, though, at the same time, nobody is really telling me that I have to beat myself up about it, either. I feel shame for my complacency--I have been horrified of these tragedies, I have been standing up for my more marginalized friends where I can, I have been thinking and talking about in private how scared and repulsed I am by these injustices. But I hate that it takes me directly being impacted--which, I'm not sure how much that will be, at least in comparison to folks more marginalized than I--to really want to be moved into action. It's good that I am. Better late than never. But I just feel shame.
I struggle with OCD and the intrusive thoughts that come with them. I've been made increasingly aware of my obsessive-compulsive behaviors in recent years, and it feels like my symptoms have grown stronger with that awareness. And with them, those intrusive thoughts. They have not been pleasant.
Out of spite, or heavily deluded optimism, or sheer cowardice, I choose to keep going. We did it before and we can do it again. Except for those who didn't get to do it. So we do it again in their honor. But it also feels different this time. But it's also not different for more marginalized people who have been dealing with these injustices for much longer.
What is my point of voicing all of this? I'm not sure. Largely, I needed a place to vent. I don't let myself vent. It isn't entirely purposeful--a lot of it is due to the instinct of repression being strong. I involuntarily repress and confine myself. I don't let myself vent my feelings, good or bad, because I don't feel I've deserved it, or it's not professional enough, or people are here to watch me post about funny cartoons rather than whine.
It's just been a lot. I've never felt this hopeless and scared in my life. "It'll work out somehow" doesn't feel like something I can say even in a deluded attempt to soothe myself. I almost just said "I'm sure it will", but that's the rub--I'm not sure at all. These are big and overwhelming feelings for someone such as myself who has coped for so long by reassuring myself with these promises. It has been true. Things have worked out, because I am still here as we speak. But I'm just not sure anymore.
This isn't to doompost. This is intended as the opposite, honestly. In spite of all of these feelings, it is a good sign that I am feeling them. I am ashamed of my complacency, but that's good, because it means I'm aware of it and ready to move forward. I do want to take action and protect my peers who face greater risks than I. I want to bond with my peers who share the same risks as I. I want to trust that those who have greater privileges than I will fight for me, too. I do believe that there is power in the people. The people--at least in my curated online circle--are pissed.
I've seen a lot of posts (and have made some of my own) advocating for creativity in these trying times. Make that drawing. Paint that painting. Sing that song, write that novel, do that gig. Be annoying. Be intrusive. Be yourself. And it is all true, and all things I have advocated for myself. It was my first instinct to do so once being sure of the news. We need sincerity and unabashed self expression now more than ever. Which is why I'm making this post.
But I lament it just the same. How am I supposed to draw funny cartoons? I have such a "positivity for thee but not for me" attitude. I have fallen into the trap of thinking my art is not important enough, not worth it enough, not good enough to participate. Painting, animating, drawing, any and all arts. I know it's not true. It's a thought I've had constantly for years, threat of fascism or no. It just feels extra hard right now to do any of this. Especially in the name of activism--"I'm not drawing cartoons right now and instead am numb and crying and paralyzed with fear and grief, I'm failing my community by not expressing myself".
I don't have an answer as to what to do. It'll come. I'll get my mojo back. I exist for art, and everything I do is out of love for art. It's true that I feel like I have fewer fucks to give--as evidenced by me using the word fuck--right now since there are greater issues at hand. I'm not going to get guillotined for drawing 2 pictures of Daffy Duck in a row. I will make more art, because art is all I know how to do. But it feels really hard to do anything right now. I struggle with writing, drawing, painting, being.
What's the point of this? I don't know. I guess to reach out and hopefully inspire someone who feels similarly. I feel a bit like a failure at the moment--I don't have the strength to reach out and console my friends who need consoling more than I do. I feel myself falling behind in my work as my thoughts are so clouded with fear and dread and uncertainty. I try to self soothe by watching comfort food, and feel like I'm wasting my time. All I've managed to really do is doomscroll, cry, and force some lines onto my drawing tablet since obligations press on.
I guess this is my way of breaking that. Maybe this is art. It doesn't feel like it. I'm concerned by how sad and checked out and exhausted my tone is. But, normally, because I'm not feeling up to standard, I'd just muzzle myself entirely. So I guess this is good. It feels vulnerable and scary and unprofessional. It's been a very long time since I've been this candid online, and I already feel the urge to delete this entirely. "Well, it only took for the threat of me being personally impacted by these issues to finally saddle up and do something about it, after years of being silently horrified about these issues and expressing my solidarity in private, out of fear of retaliation or judgement" just feels like such a horribly selfish thing to say.
I've been grappling with my shortcomings and flaws in recent months as I've been trying to rehabilitate into a stronger, more resilient person. This acknowledgement is good, and dooming about it gets me nowhere--action will, and I plan to take it. But I'm ashamed. I guess it's a good sense of shame to have, though. I don't know.
I don't know what else to do from here. I don't have the answers right now. I guess to be patient and take it one day at a time. I still feel selfish typing up such diatribes when there are so many more people who already have and will continue to be impacted by this to a graver extent than I will. It's my job to protect and show solidarity with them. Loudly this time rather than in private. But, as I've said, this is my blog, it's intended to be candid, and I'm getting candid.
I've been revisiting It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World for a much needed laugh. It's probably my favorite movie. I've taken to watching Whose Line Is It Anyway while working for another much needed laugh, and it's provided. So miserable and stricken by the state of the world, I found myself being grateful for the artistic beauty of a simmering pot of chili on the stove--it'd be nice to look at things with such gratitude and clarity. Especially while we can. I've still managed to draw for work and do what I can. I hope to play some games and watch stuff with friends once I'm at a better capacity to be more personal. For now, I just feel vague and aimless and am letting myself exist as such.
I hope this can inspire someone. I hope this makes someone feel less alone. I hope this makes someone check their internal complacencies and biases, should they have them. I hope this inspires someone to create, and I hope it inspires someone to take it easy if you have no capacity for creation at all. I think we will get through this. We have to. There's no way we can't. But we have to change and adapt and fight to do so. Complacency kills.